I don't have a filter. I say a lot of things that most people think, but don't say. Sure, I've got boundaries. I generally don't say anything mean spirited and I try not to offend anyone. But in general, if I think it - I'm probably going to say it.
Often times this gets me intro trouble. I can say something that's misunderstood. I say things that make me look stupid. I take jokes just a little over the line.
But I'm also really good at humor. I've got great comedic timing. I'm also real. Authentic. And ultimately you know where I stand. I make a point to tell you the good with the bad.
And because I lack a filter, I've been told my whole life I'm too much. That I should tone it down, even change who I am. For a really long time, I even allowed myself to agree with those people. I wondered why I couldn't just be quiet and blend in. I wished I could be one of those sweet and nice girls who doesn't say much and never causes controversy. I think I even spent a whole 24 hours being that person. At the end of the day, that's not me. I was miserable.
I'm a lot. I'm loud. I'm opinionated. And I think my filter is in a gutter in Las Vegas along with my dignity from 2010. I'm an acquired taste. For some, I'm not their type at all. I don't think I'm one of those people you say "yea, she's cool, whatever." You either love me or you think I'm the worst.
The cool thing about being 30 and not having a filter? I've figured out who I am. And I'm accepting of who that is. I realize people may not like who that is. And that isn't my problem. I'm a good person (with great hair) who likes to laugh and likes to push boundaries. I do it with sparkle, sass, and mostly with class.
I don't have a filter. But honestly, in 2017, we could all do with one less filter in the world. And because I care, I'll be that girl for us.