Y’all need to check on your type A friends because we are not ok.
My entire being has been based on achieving things going 100MPH. From sports to a career, I do the most all the time.
And then a pandemic hit. And that’s been a lot of emotions.
I have focused my energies more on helping than I have my job. I do what I need to do, I am never one to slack, but I’m operating at about 50%. Sure, my 50% is someone else’s 110% — but that’s a significant shift for me.
And I know Im not the only one.
If you’re type A, you operate on a high level too. Yet right now it’s really hard for me to get motivated by regular everyday work.
My family has been directly affected by this. My heart is heavy. And I don’t like some of the ugly behavior this has brought out in people. I don’t believe business as usual cuts it right now. At my core, I believe helping and caring for people is how we should be leading efforts.
Realistically, things aren’t business as usual and the goal for most is to survive. I think business are working more towards just surviving rather than promotions and bonuses and “business as usual.”
So I’m readjusting my goals. And my mindset. Thankfully I’m at a company that truly allows me to do so.
I still don’t know how to really rest. I don’t know how to not be focused on an end goal. So I’m shifting those goals. The best way to manage your type A mentality right now is to do the same.
Choose goals that keep your health in mind while still honoring your need to overachieve. Because I get it, people want to reframe the mindset we have and remind us not everything is about winning and losing. I’m 34 years in, Im not sure my need to achieve is ever going to change.
A little healthy competition — especially with yourself, is a good thing. But keep it healthy. And when you don’t win, take the L and figure out how to make it a lesson.