Did you huys know that people make mistakes and thats just….ok? Nobody shared this with me! My entire life I have been under the impression that mistkaes are unacceptable.
I get it, I’m too hard on myself. But I genuinely thought that if you make a mistake, specifically at work, you get scolded and you are shamed and life is over.
I’m now in an environment where they not only give grace for mistakes, they expect that you’re bound to make them.
I’m sorry, what is this world?
I made a mistake in a big event that I had planned. And I was so hard on myself. Shaming myself for days on end and apologizing over and over again to literally everyone. I would not, could not stop cutting myself down about it.
And you know what? Every single person at this company said to me — thats is? THat’s the bigest mistake you made for this? AND you fixed it immediately? You’re good.
YOURE GOOD? Where are thre scoldings? Who is going to throw apples at me in the town square? I’m just …given grace and acceptance and support? HOW DARE YOU.
Her’es the thing — I genuinely understand when others make mistakes. But I rarely make them at work. I am so on it that I am often doing my job, your job and her job and I’m doing it all well.
And yea, sometimes I make a mistake — but it is rare. And when I do I am shaming myself for weeks on end.
Apparently expecting perfection isn’t reality.
Having my team, my manager, and others give me grace has been eye opening. It’s allowed me to give myself grace. I still have incredibly high expectations for myself and others, but I am also realizing that I am human. And the constant pressure I have put on myself for years is not sustainable.
I guess what I’m saying is maybe a mistake or two isn’t the end of the world or my career.