I need an explanation for everything. I want to know why, how and what I could have done differently to avoid a negative situation. I need to know.
A mentor and friend recently explained to me something really simple that has brought me a lot of peace.
“Sometimes people are shitty and things are shitty and there is no other explanation for it.”
Period.
I recently went through a bit of a rough patch and found myself in a toxic situation that I tried every which way to explain. I obsessed over my every move, the move of others in the situation and how I could have strategically done things differently. When I explained this to my friend, he simply said “This person is shitty, your situation is shitty, just walk away knowing that.”
And he’s right.
There’s no deeper meaning or hidden lesson here. Unfortunately I was in a shitty situation and I tried my best to make it work but it wasn’t the right thing for me.
Not everything has an explanation. Not every person is meant for you to understand. Sometimes you get stuck around someone who’s absolute trash and the situation you’re in is garbage.
That’s it.
Don’t overthink it. Save yourself the time and energy. Understand the situation and those people don’t serve you, aren’t meant for you and move on.
Process and recognize what’s happening so you recognize the signs for the future, but most of all, move on.
Focus on what’s next. Look for a better situation. Surround yourself with better people. And just make things better.
Find peace in knowing that life doesn’t provide you with a formal explanation for everything. Sometimes it’s shitty, people are shitty, and that’s that.
Now take a deep breath and go find something to fill up your sparkle.