I've had a lot of really brave women reach out to me regarding my post yesterday. Many of which have been victims of assault, rape, violence, sexism, and really everything in between. It was irresponsible of me not to include resources to those who may have experienced some of the things I discussed. Sadly being a woman today often includes struggling with self doubt, pain, and depression because of what we are subject to in this world.
First and foremost, thank you to the women who have spoken up. To even say something to one person is brave and I'm proud of you. The more we talk about it, the more other people will feel uncomfortable and get a glimpse of the realness that is assault, rape, violence, sexism, everything. Having been a victim myself of both violence and assault, I'm here if you should want someone to talk to. Every story is different and I certainly cannot say I know how you feel, but I understand some of the feelings of being a victim. Please do not hesitate to reach out to me.
Second, I encourage you to seek out professional help. Talking to a therapist, calling women's resource centers, speaking to your loved ones so they can help find you good support - these are all ways to help you heal. Below are some places I've researched that are available to you 24/7:
RAINN (National Sexual Assault Hotline): 1-800-656-4673. This line is 24/7 and they're able to help locate local resources for you. Their website also has a lot of information regarding policy, questions, and safety/prevention.
The National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Again, 24/7 and confidential.
If you're having problems in the workplace and don't feel comfortable speaking to HR, there are resources and legal aid programs in your city with minimal to zero cost to you. Research your local legal aid and often you can have a free initial consultation where they can help you create a plan. Make sure you're documenting EVERYTHING as well.
Please know you're not alone. It's scary, its heartbreaking and often you feel hopeless. Speak up. You are not alone. Say something to someone you trust, it helps relieve the burden and those who care about you can help you create a plan to heal.
Lastly, email me at any time silva.ashley@gmail.com and I'm happy to help in any way. I'll talk to you, help you find professional help, whatever you need.
Don't ever give up. You're worthy, you're brave, you are far from damaged. You WILL get through this.