Every day I see a new engagement or pregnancy announcement on Facebook. And I love being able to support my friends who are doing those things. But I'd like to make one thing clear, the fact that I'm not doing all of those things right now does not make me "behind" in the race of life. The fact that I have been working on my career and myself first, by no means is something I say as an excuse for being single. I don't need to hear, "You'll find him someday..." or "Your time will come." I will. Or I won't. My time is NOW. I know there's nothing wrong with me (I'm a catch, you're welcome), I know I put my career and myself first, and for me, I like that. If the right guy comes along, perfect, but I'm not worrying about looking for him (he might be lost you know?). I like where I'm at, where I'm headed, and most importantly, I really like myself. But it took me a really long time to get to this point.
Do I want the husband, 2.5 kids, the dog, and the house in suburbia? Yes. Would I eventually one day like to be able to stay home with my kids? Yes. Do I want that right now? Debatable. Am I worried about being 30 and having a ticking clock? No. Am I dating? Absolutely. But they haven't been the one. When it's my time, when I'm ready, when I've checked off some of my other goals, I'll get there. And it will be at the perfect time for ME.
It's not about feminism, it's not about baggage, a phase, or making a statement. It's about me. And it's about making the most of this awesome experience so that I can be my best self before I take that leap to forever. Instead of asking your friends "So are you dating anyone?" ask what's new. Ask about their job and their family and their dreams. Ask about their next trip, their latest achievement, ask how they're doing. People are more than who we date.