The Me Too movement has been around for quite some time. It peaked again in 2015/2016 and yet here we are - women being told they gotta do more to prove the things that happen to us.
When a woman is raped, it’s always “what was she wearing” “was she leading him on” “Was she drinking”? When women are abused it’s always “why didn’t she say something” “why didn’t she leave”? The initial reaction is to doubt her, her story, her character - the first reaction is to tear her down.
It’s bullshit.
Women don’t owe you shit.
We don’t report because it’s often a waste of our time. It takes incredible bravery, time and energy to report what happens to us. And most of the time, it’s all for nothing and leaves us having to survive a second battle.
This has got to stop.
Men need to speak up more. Believe women more. Protect and stand for women more.
Other women also need to advocate for other women. Support other women. Show up for other women.
But again, this is on men to help change. If you’re in a position of power, you need to be standing up when you see injustice against women.
Is a woman being interrupted in your meeting? Flip it back over to her. If a woman confides in you about abuse or rape - believe her. Listen to her and get her help.
When your favorite sports teams let’s a domestic abuser play, speak up. When a friend makes a rape joke, tell him it’s not acceptable.
Do more. Stop being a passive ally and start being an actual ally. Stop sitting back and start being an active part of the solution.
Women don’t owe you shit. We do enough. We are enough. It’s time the men stepped up and did the work to support us. We are there for everyone else.