I don't believe in soulmates. I don't believe there is one person for us all out there. I believe there are many mates that could be a great match and whom with we could live perfectly amazing lives with.
We are well aware in the last 5 years I've moved a lot. And each time I've moved I've been in some state of dating someone. And every single time I've moved onto that new state with a fresh start. And at least one of those times, I absolutely know I could have married that person and lived one amazing life.
You would think that would make me sad. Give me regret. But it doesn't. At that time, the relationship was not my priority. Developing the connection wasn't something I was ready for. I vividly remember understanding how I felt about this person and pushing them away anyways. But I don't regret walking away.
I believe we get many great loves in our life and if we are really lucky, we find one of them and keep them forever. But if we miss one due to life and timing - we don't lose our soulmate. We don't miss out on the fairy tale.
That being said - life is unpredictable. We lose loved ones. We experience illness. We go through hardships. Each of these events shape who we are at any given moment. Who you love and go through life with at one time may be completely wrong for you another time.
Understanding the role timing plays within our relationships is how you have a healthy mindset in matters of the heart. The person I walked away from back then has moved on in his romantic life. And I don't dwell on what could have been. His person he has right now is his soulmate in the timing of life. I am so happy for him and that he's been able to find his person at the right time.
We all have the what if's. The maybe laters. The people we chase and the people we turn away from. And maybe you do believe in your one soulmate. But for me - I would hate to live in a world where I only get one shot. I would much rather go through this journey with my heart open to love and possibilities.