It's been a few months since I shared with you the art of the cutoff. I was definitely due for an update.
To sum everything up: I'm a MF rock star.
How? Because I've mastered the art of the follow through.
That's right friends. I set in place a hard cutoff for a few people in my life - both romantic and platonic - and I've stuck to that.
I know, I think I'm a superhero too.
Here's how I did it. You ready? I stay busy, I stay active, and I rely on my circle.
How has my life changed? My confidence has gone sky high, my decision making more efficient, and the value I place on myself cannot be compromised. I'd always heard the good ole "the people who deserve to be in your life will prove it" and quite honestly, I thought it was shit. Turns out, it's the highest level of real there ever was.
Time is not infinite. There are always a billion things to do. But you are in control of how you spend your time. When you value others, you make time for them. You treat them better. It's all connected.
Do I have difficult days? I do. I miss people. I'm naturally a nostalgic person. But at the end of the day - if those people valued me the way I valued them, they wouldn't allow themselves to be an option. Friendships and romances are complicated as all hell, but if people aren't treating you right or willing to let you go - they become very very easy.
Commit to the hard cutoff. It's not easy. It's some black ops training style voo doo - but it also gives you a whole new perspective on the people who do show you how important you are to their world. Get rid of the dead weight. Make room and make time for the really real ones.