I'm going to be single forever. At one point or another, most of us have said this. If you haven't you're probably from the South and have been married since 14. But for most of Americans today, we've had that thought of never finding "The One" cross our minds. And really, is that the worst thing that could ever happen to you?
I love love. I love relationships because to me marriage is the ultimate team. But at the end of the day, if I don't get married, if I don't find my forever, that's not going to be the worst thing in the world. Because to me, being in an unhappy partnership, an abusive relationship, or an unequal partnership are far worse than winding up alone. Equally if not worse are things like cancer, death, severe disfigurement - but sure, single can top your list of worst things ever if ya like.
For those of you who have a deep fear of being alone - who actually do believe that its the worst thing that could ever happen to you - may I suggest that the fear could stem from not being comfortable with yourself. This also may be why you haven't met the right person to begin with. Should your greatest fear be winding up alone, I highly advise working on your relationship with yourself. Because at the end of it all - if you're not happy with you and comfortable being alone - you won't ever find true happiness with anyone else.
Let's talk about how to get comfortable with realizing being single is not a disability. It's not a sign of being a loser. It's not a defining quality. Being single doesn't make you less accomplished. It's not something you have to check off in order to live your best life.
Being single is your opportunity to develop your most important relationship you will ever have - the one you have with yourself. Because to me, the worst thing that can ever happen is being unhappy with yourself. If at the end of this great adventure I don't find my teammate, I'm not alone and its not the worst thing that will ever happen to me. I've got a lot of people in my corner, including myself - that make me jut as fulfilled, just as happy - and just as worthy as anyone with a wedding ring. If I'm not happy, comfortable, and confident with myself - that truly is the worst thing that could ever happen and THAT would be my failure.